Reply to Everything was great for 6 months and then family finds out and boom: he ends it. Advice?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Everything was great for 6 months and then family finds out and boom: he ends it. Advice?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You said you weren't serious with him so why are you giving this so much though?

It would not have worked out for you in the long run.

Cut your losses and move on.[/quote]

OP here...because it seemed like it could have potential to last a very long time. I want a long-term relationship. I just don't want to get married again. I do not think family ever needed to know. [b]He said before he was not looking for marriage and kids[/b]. We seemed to be on the same page. This threw me. I would not have mentioned to family if marriage and kids were not in the future...I feel that this could have been the long-term relationship I wanted that did not have to result in marriage. I see no reason family needed to know unless marriage was discussed. It wasn't. [/quote]

With you OP, he was not looking for marriage and kids WITH YOU.
His family on the other hand will absolutely be looking for those things, again not WITH YOU and so they have forced him to reconcile with their plans for his life.
He made his choice. Time to move on.[/quote]

This, OP.  I'm married to an Egyptian.  My case is a bit different since he had been married to an Egyptian before me, had kids, and was divorced.  His family was thrilled with me and thrilled with our marriage and our kids together.    But it's unusual.  And likely would never have happened if he hadn't already married the "right" way and divorced.  I have many American female friends who have dated Egyptians and even married them.   One was the same situation as you and she married.  His family began to pressure him to take a second wife so he could have kids (my friend was too old).  He did, and my friend divorced him.  I can give you countless stories of Egyptian men who have used American women for green cards.  Married and divorced them after they got here and their green cards or citizenship were solid.   Men who took second wives back home to have children.   Older men, too.  40 isn't old when family is pressuring men to marry and have kids.    [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics