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[quote=Anonymous]OP you are so focused on him and them and why's and what's.

You need to stay really centered on your feelings and not the mind chatter of but I did this or why would he say that.

You don't know all the details, but you know enough. You know that this man dropped you at the turn of a hat. You can't go back in time and change that. Even if he showed up 'perfectly' and wanted to recommit I would see that as a huge red flag, for now he has learned exactly how to control you and keep a lot of focus on him instead of you, how low he can take it, all of that - that you will throw away thoughts of what is truly best for you.

You need to dig deep and find your self worth. These things don't randomly happen in healthy relationships. What warning signs did you choose to ignore and why? What parts of you were so eager for 'the dream' that you created it with someone of unstable character?

Rewrite the experience only about you, no mentions of he/him/them/his family. Only focused on you and see what comes up. Do free flow writing for 20-30min or so, it might help.

It's hard to face this stuff and take radical responsibility but essential and in the end you will be much further ahead.[/quote]

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