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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not mad. I am shocked he did not expect that reaction. It seems really immature. I would not mention unless serious. By the way, only typical Americans in my opinion, would think this. I would not mention anyone unless at a serious stage. In conservative families with strong cultural ties, there is no reason to bring up a boyfriend or girlfriend unless you are considering marriage. “Dating” is not really acceptable. Most people in the US do not understand this. I am American but have very conservative strong cultural ties so I am not like most Americans. You just don’t bring up a random boyfriend/girlfriend.[/quote]

New poster here.  I echo the question  “what are you looking for”? If it’s a FWB situation then anyone can bounce for any reason and boomerang back for any reason.  Usually, it’s assumed to be a limited time or an in between or until.  If that is what you want, then sure, take him back if he comes back but with eyes wide open that he could buckle to pressure to get married to someone his parents encourage or break up again if he wants more than a FWB situation and knows that it will never fly with his family if it’s with you. But I have to question though why there is all this emotion, him with tears at the breakup, and you bewildered about why the FWB had to come to an end if it was a short term arrangement to start. If you are looking for a long term monogamous situation, even one that doesn’t mean marriage or kids, unless his parents have accepted that he is never going to marry or have kids or he is willing to stand up to them get them to accept that (which at this point sounds unlikely) you are wasting your time.  It doesn’t matter if he keeps it secret because he would still have the pressure of being unmarried.[/quote]

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