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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. Never expected this many responses to my initial inquiry. Let me state that we have no intention of doing anything that would have the slightest chance of jeopardizing the birth mother, if she is even still alive and in her native country.

My daughter and I have talked about expectations based on some of what has been written in this thread. She understands that some kind of a reunion where everyone is crying and taking pictures is a long shot at best. We are also aware that the birth mother might not have been a college student and we might have been fed a story that is far from the truth, which makes her identity near impossible to uncover.

One point that has been made is the need for counseling. We were all twenty-two once and this is an age where young adults are trying to figure out who they are - mix in an adoption and these questions become more problematical. We have agreed that a professional can explore what my daughter is interested in knowing, a safe way to do it, and how to emotionally handle the most likely outcomes.

In terms of an actual search, we have run into nothing but dead ends. My daughter did befriend another college student from the same orphanage (adopted nine months before) who is fluent in the language and worked there two summers ago. Even him, with multiple connections has found it impossible to get information.

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Your best bet is to contact the adoption orphanage, agency or attorney or see if that country allows for records to be open or if they have the information and can reach out.  Otherwise, do some of the DNA testing kits and see if you can find her through there.  Beyond that, you'd have to find someone who can search.[/quote]

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