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[quote=Anonymous]Oy. I've been thinking about this for days and wanted to give one last shot at reasoning with OP. Look, I understand that your daughter *wants* to find her birth mom. But you don't seem to be processing at all that your daughter has far less to lose here than her birth mother does. Worst case scenario for your daughter is that she goes through her life wishing she had found her birth mom. Worst case scenario for her birth mom is that she loses her livelihood, her marriage, and her family. So, sure, tell the local adoption agency your daughter would love to meet her birth mom and see if the birth mom has already left a message. Check the message boards and see if the birth mom has posted. But, for the love of all that is holy, do not hire a private investigator to track this woman down. If she wants to be found, she will have made herself findable. If she doesn't, you need to respect that. [/quote]
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