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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm from Eastern Europe and it is DEFINITELY rude to talk about someone in the third person when they are present.

However, to clarify an important point, because some people seem to be ridiculing something that is not the case -- once you refer to someone by name or by relationship, you don't have to keep using the name/relationship in the conversation that IMMEDIATELY follows.

So, for example, if we just sat down to have dinner, and I ask what my kids would like to do after dinner, it would be rude of them to just nod/look at my husband and say "Oh, he said we could watch a movie."

They would have to say, "Oh, Papa said we could watch a movie." But if one of the kids then wants to add "well, he said that we could watch a movie if we cleaned our rooms first" that's fine. They don't have to say "Papa" every single time they refer to him, it is just rude to start out with that.

If we then talk about something else, however, and then I want to comment on a dish that my husband made, it would be rude of me to say, "Didn't he make a good lasagna?"

I would say, "Didn't Papa make a good lasagna?" But then I can certainly say, "I think he used the recipe that..." [/quote]

This makes sense to me. I think some Mamas out there took it to a weird extreme, insisting on never being referred to as "she" in any instance in any hearing distance. [/quote]

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