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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I are sharing childcare duties while both WFH. We have a very equitable schedule.

Here is what I do when I am watching our 3 year old and my husband works: 
-Playing with her in her room (like actively playing and talking to her)
-Taking her for walks and to the playground
-Fixing and saving her snacks and meals
-Making sure she goes to the bathroom
-Dealing with any meltdowns as they arise
-Cleaning/laundry as possible and necessary

Here is what he does when he is watching our child and I work:
-Playing games on his phone
-Looking at Twitter on his phone
-Making himself snacks, then getting annoyed when our child asks if she can have some
-Getting frustrated with any meltdown or even very brief instance of whining (which happens constantly because she is bored and knows he's not paying attention to her)
-Letting our daughter come into my workspace and climb into my lap/yell at me/try to play with me while I work (and he will only come get her if I ask him too, as he is in the other room playing a game on his phone)

Technically, we spend the same amount of time "providing childcare" every day. But I am actually parenting whereas he is like the world's shittiest nanny. And, because I am constantly interrupted during my work hours, I'm also constantly working until 2am to finish projects, which means I'm doing all this on 4 hours of sleep, while he's getting 8 hours every night and then complaining about how tired he is.[/quote]

I can relate to this. My husband just watches golf and shoos then kids off the couch. He might make some nachos for them all to share. And of course it’s me that has to clean up the huge mess from his afternoon “watching the kids”. [/quote]

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