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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,

As a fellow AA parent, I would advise you to do what you would have done in any case.  [b]Ask the school to put you in touch with current parents. [/b] Then use your spider sense.  This is an intensely personal decision, and when considering these traditional schools, you might take into account the personality of your child (how are they likely to react if they have a negative or ambiguous interaction?).  Also, how much mental energy are you willing/able to invest in monitoring/managing the situation?  Will you enjoy working with teachers or school administrators whom you might/might not have to educate a bit?  Please know that “zero” investment in this type of social-emotional support  is not likely to be an option whichever school you choose for your DC.

I would also take a close look at GDS.  I’m not a big 3 parent, but the GDS parents/students I know are all really smart and reasonable.  In any event, if your child has a negative/ambiguous experience, it seems that GDS would be equipped bc of its history to work with your family in a constructive way.

It’s really too bad that you can’t visit campuses.  (Duh!)  My DC participated for a time in an activity that included a number of Cathedral children.  DC enjoyed the activity, but when a relative cam to visit and had the opportunity to observe; relative immediately noted the conservative (not political or racial, just traditional) ambience.  Again, OP, you seem like such a reflective person, I think trusting your instincts will take you far.  [/quote]

Just know that the school will march out the satisfied parents and not those whose kids are struggling.  I know the family in our grade who is called on to testify on how great their kid's experience is.  The school does not ask the other 5 families who are not as happy.  
The schools know exactly who to use to speak for them when prospective families ask.  You will not get an unbiased opinion--in fact, far from it. [/quote]

OP, you're in a tough spot. This is the worst year imaginable to get any up-close information on the schools. Your kid (much less your kids' relatives) can't go get a feel for the school. You also pointed out noted, as the above poster does, that families the school sends you are vetted by the school. You say you're relatively new to town, and that combined with COVID means you're not able to get out there and talk to folks. You are right to acknowledge that dcum is far from perfect, but I don't blame you from just trying to get as much information as you can during this crazy year. I wish I had more to offer you other than well wishes, but good luck![/quote]

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