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[quote=Anonymous]You may need to take the lead, and be sure he's willing to follow. My husband takes the lead on our finances because I am also, to be honest, not that interested and he's interested, willing, and pretty good at it. I know where everything is in terms of debt and saving and investments, but I don't track it like he does. Would it be better if I did? Yes. But is it okay that he's "in charge"? Also, ok. Very important: NO SECRET DEBT. Don't hide credit cards from each other. If you can, in a kind, gentle and unheated moment, be sure that there's nothing there that he's hiding from you. And if so, no freakouts. It's just something to get through and take the right step forward from hereon out. (I came clean about my debt right away when proposal happened, even before I said "yes". And it really was very little student debt, but to me felt like a big ass nightmare.) [/quote]
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