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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All this talk about rich non-working women —come on.

The vast majority in the DMV have salaries that can’t support/justify the cost of childcare so they stay home.  Period.

They aren’t living this glamorous life.[/quote]

They're not the people who get everyone all riled up, though, and what makes these threads run on to 20 + pages of attacks and rhetoric like "useless leeches".[/quote]

I've definitely seen wealthy SAHMs on DCUM tell poorer working women who have to work they aren't raising their kids. [/quote]

I've definitely seen woh moms posting here telling sahms that their husbands are/will be cheating, leaving them destitute, they are slaves, etc. Many women on this board seriously can't wrap their minds around the fact that there are loving, devoted, faithful, committed men who have a sah partner.[/quote]

Me too. I’m a SAHM of school aged kids - so the exact person all these women seem to hate - married to a fabulous partner. He makes a point of telling me how much he values what I do for the family (especially now with DL!). He is highly paid but has the flexibility that comes with a very senior role so even before the pandemic he was home in time for dinner, came to school and sporting events, etc. He gets six weeks off and since it’s a use or lose it situation, he uses all of it.

I don’t get all these bitter accusations that he is inevitably going to leave me high and dry. [b]We’ve been happily married for 20 years and we have full financial transparency. My name is on all our accounts, he has a 2.5M life insurance policy, etc. I don’t know why posters in here assume we aren’t doing the necessary things to protect ourselves. Shrug.[/quote][/b]

This is what I think is weird with all the posts telling SAHMs that their husbands will inevitably cheat, leave them destitute, etc. You're a person who's been married for 20 years. I assume you dated this man for some time before you got married. What gives a stranger the idea that they know more about your ~ 22-25 year relationship than you do? It's the most bizarre thing. I think it's that type of thing that is really telling of their true animosity and that it points to jealousy as a motivation for spewing such unwarrented venom. [/quote]

At least from what I've seen, many of the DCUM women posting about men cheating, etc. are doing it based on their own personal experiences. If their personal experience doesn't relate to you, I don't see why you care that someone said men sometimes cheat. [b]That's why I differentiate between the gratuitously mean wealthy SAHMs on DCUM who tell poorer working moms that they aren't raising their kids.[/b] They are only doing it to be nasty, whereas a lot of the women who post about cheating men are doing it based on personal experience.

I've been both by the way. I dislike the nasty DCUM WOHMs, too, and if you saw my post history you would see a history of me telling them off too, but I think it's pretty blind to pretend there isn't an exceptionally nasty pack of wealthy SAHMs on DCUM whose sport in life seems to be tearing down average working women.[/quote]

Which is a very strange thing fora SAHM to say. If her husband is working it means he isn't raising his kids but in her mind that's acceptable. "Good for me, not for thee"[/quote]

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