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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Meh, i come from my own perspective that unless she has a satisfying job, i see nothing successful about a woman with babies who got married to a nice guy.  Because i'm not sure how any of that is an accomplishment.

Woman with nice husband, kids and good job? success!

Woman with no husband or kids, but good job, and she is happy with her life? Success!

Woman with nice husband and kids, who piddles around with zumba and the PTA?  I mean, she hasn't "achieved" anything, so i'd call that a neutral.

Woman with husband, kids and job or no job, who's not happy? Not a success.   [/quote]

Meh, I come from a perspective that a woman who is not very well educated and has her own money is a failure in regards to her own financial safety and security.  If she is not raising her kids for at least the first 5 years of life and relies on nannies and daycare she is a failure as a mom.  If she is not happily married to a good provider who is loyal to her and continues to be in a marriage that has adultry/abuse/addiction from her spouse  she is a failure as a wife.

I don't care if a woman works or not, especially in US where workplace is not supportive of moms. I worked for some years, banked all my earnings and made my money grow and left the workplace to become a SAHM. As long as the woman have control of her own money and can make the money work for her, she is successful in my books.  If she is working in a low-end job to make ends meet and has kids who need to be in daycare/school so she can make minimum wages, I think her life is a struggle.  If she has her own money, inherited money, married money, won money in lottery - doesn't matter how she got her money - as long as she controls it and grows it - she is a success.

And on top of that if she has healthy and successful marriage and kids who are thriving - she is a winner. [/quote]

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