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How would they "compensate" Sally?   If you are Mary (Sally's mom) in this situation, how would you handle this?[/quote]

well to begin with, I would never give Sally the idea that she was being treated unfairly, or that money and things are everything, or that you should spend life fixated on what other people appear to have. By “compensate” I just mean the family would work to find opportunities for Sally to get physical activity and participate in sports (tons of free/cheap things to do), take inexpensive vacations, and develop a positive and fun family atmosphere and traditions.

I’ll say it again - this all has to do with the adults and their values, not the need for stepkids to be treated equally on paper. [/quote]

So you have no answer.[/quote]

they have an answer, sitting down a 9 year old and explaining that live isn't fair and that even though she like gymnastics and is better than her sister, she's going to have to spend weekends driving to far flung gyms to watch her sister because life isn't fair. She'll then understand perfectly, go sit down with her copy of Atlas Shrugged and be perfectly content while her sister does her routine. [/quote]

No, you put both kids in gymnastics and if they cannot go to the sessions as they are with the other parent you see if you can do a make up session or do it during the week when you have the child.  You don't say tuff luck.[/quote]

I'm the pp who created the Larla/Sally gymnastics scenario.

Paul and Mary can't afford gymnastics so "putting both kids in gymnastics" is not an option.   Larla is able to do gymnastics because her mom (Paul's ex) is able to afford it.

Regarding Larla not going during Paul's week and doing a "make up session"--it sounds like you've never had a kid in any type of travel/competitive sport.   There is no "make up" session.   You show up to every practice/meet/competition/game or you're out.   Period. [/quote]

This really just takes the cake. the existence of travel sports means nobody can ethically remarry. Ok!!
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