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The part that jumped out at me in the bolded paragraph was definitely the last sentence.  If you’re a guy and you enjoy sex, marriage may not be the right institution for you.  Keep dating, be the new/exciting guy - don’t be the guy who’s devoted their life to a person.[/quote]

The point isn't to always be the exciting new guy. The point is to provide a safe and attractive context so your partner wants to have sex with you. Despite what the MRA sites tell you, most women don't need new partners to want sex. We just need partners that don't suck.

If you aren't interested in that, then yes, don't get married. But be honest with yourself - that you don't like doing any actual work in a relationship and just want women to cater to your needs with no expectation of reciprocity. [/quote]

Completely understandable that women want to have sex with partners who don't suck. But realistically, there are a lot of reasons women end up not wanting sex that don't involve their partner being substandard in some way. A woman's sexual desire isn't a morality play where if a guy is good, his wife will want to have sex with him and where, if a guy is bad, his wife won't want to have sex.[b] I think it's important to emphasize this so that husbands realize that his wife not wanting to have sex with him isn't necessarily a judgment on his worth as a person. That's where a lot of resentment comes from[/b]. [/quote]

This, this, this!

In the endless search for equality (a noble goal) we have perpetuated a myth that women are the same as men.  Equal, yes.  Same, no.  Of course there are exceptions, but men on average want sex way, way more than women and women lose desire over time way, way faster than men.  This is almost always going to result in a libido gap, and if you love each other, you compromise.  If one of you doesn't want to compromise, that's where the infidelity or divorce happens.[/quote]

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