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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP.

These perspectives are so interesting! I'm really glad I asked the question, and it feels like a happy accident that I was too vague. I enjoyed hearing what made the most impact on the moms too - not just on the kids. What a wonderful, touching, bunch of anecdotes.

Right now, the SAHM/age/impact question is, for me, just something to ponder for curiosity's sake. I can't stay at home. We have a 4 month old daughter and we need my job for the health insurance it provides our family. DH and I make similar salaries. I also enjoy my work and am probably not cut out to be the best full-time caretaker for a little baby.

I think what I take away most from this thread is a real interest in making sure I'm flexible enough to be around for my daughter after school once she starts school. That is doable with my job/industry and I think I would love being there for those moments with her. 
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OP, for what it's worth, I worked really hard and long hours while our twins were 0-4. After that I had the seniority and the pay to be able to cut back pretty significantly and I have enjoyed spending the years 4-7 with them so much. My husband has always worked pretty steadily (made less than I did when the kids were babies, makes more than me now), so he has always been present (and we had a full-time nanny). I know that for us, we made the right decision. I, like you, am not cut out to be the best caretaker for little babies. Weekends were always family time and I always took my leave (I had saved up more than enough for a long maternity leave plus time after I went back), so it's not like I was an absent mother. But oh man, hanging out with them now is awesome, and I am so glad that I have the chance to do it.[/quote]

SAHM - I completely agree with you.  I think the older years are far more fun and meaningful.  And, its when they start to really remember things.  A good nanny is fine.  I am glad I stayed home and I always thought I preferred little ones but I think its just other people's kids as I like all stages with mine but the lasting stuff is school age.[/quote]

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