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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At what age/stage do you think it makes the most impact on your child's development to have you as a full-time caregiver? Let's say you could only do so for a couple of years, would it be when they are a baby? Toddler? Preschool age? [/quote]

My mother stayed home with me until kindergarten. My siblings were school age when I was born, so I had her to myself for 6 years. It was lovely and I remember the fun mom from that time -- doing art projects, going for walks and swims, etc . I could have that sweet version of my mom more during my middle school and high school years when life got tough and confusing and I had no one to talk to. Instead I got the cranky, stressed-out mom in the evenings and the rushed, "I can't be late to my meetings again because you overslept and aren't ready for school!" mom in the mornings. She's retired now and once again as sweet as pie.

I SAH full-time for the first 5 years for my son and now WFH. I hope that will continue until my son is done w/school, because I want to be present and available if he needs me.[/quote]

That sounds like your mom’s crappy job and/or her relationship with that job, not a general thing for working moms. I never think about work when not at work and my stress level is lower when I work because I like my colleagues/work environment. [/quote]
I don’t know. It was the same with my mom. Our lives were so stressful and she was anxious and stressed all the time when she worked. Sure, my dad could’ve gone part time. It’s as much his fault, but it was the 80s. I think our whole system is messed up. People should be able to work to earn enough to live and retire in 20-30 hours per week. I know I’d be a stressed out mess trying to work full time and manage everything. I get to fulfill my intellectual and creative interests while my kids are in school and sometimes they do take me away from them, but for the most part I’m present and relaxed. Maybe some type A people are great at the balance, but I sure am not.[/quote]

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