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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for all the helpful, sympathetic advice. I'll definitely be up front about my long-term plans (no more kids, wait and see about marriage). I may have been out of the dating game for a long time, but I still know about safe sex. I guess I should clarify something: I adore my kids and will spend as much time with them as I can, and I have always been and will still be very involved in the parenting. But they have a mom, and so there will be plenty of nights when I can't see them. And they're mainly going to be living with their mom for some pragmatic reasons. That's the initial arrangement. We can revise it. This is all by consent. Like I said, relatively amicable. There's a lot of sadness but not much anger - we've already worked through that. [/quote]

Woman here and child of divorced parents.  Not having your kids 50/50 is fine and maybe better for them.  It is dispruptive to have to switch households for a week, every other week.  If they have a good relationship with Mom and she isn't crazy, having them primarily reside with her is fine, as long as you stay involved.  Don't let people here make you feel guilty about that.

Stay away from childless women in their 20s or 30s for long term relationships.  They have no idea about being a step mother and being put second to your children.  Plus even if they say they don't want kids there is a high likelihood they will change their mind once they hook you in and/or get married to you.

I would stick with divorced single mothers in their 30s or women in their 40s, kids or no kids doesn't matter once past early 40s.

Good luck and focus on your kids for now as they are feeling the instability. Don't partner up with someone they don't mesh well with either.  It will very much hurt your relationship with them permenately.
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My husband's kids are pretty messed up, each in their own way.  The divorce and being kept from Dad clearly had an impact.[/quote]

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