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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. Another thing -- I feel terrible spending money on a nice place or luxuries for myself. Yeah, I make a lot. But the spending has to come from somewhere ... retirement savings, college savings, or rainy day savings (I wasn't planning to be at BigLaw for a whole lot longer). After the big mortgage for the house and criminally high private school tuition (both of which we're keeping at least for now to maintain some continuity for the kids), it's not like I'm still rolling in dough.  [/quote]

OP, it would be wildly unfair for you to decide you want a cushier job so you're going to once again upend your kids' stability after the divorce by forcing them to move out of their home and change schools. Just keep your biglaw job to try to maintain the home and schools for your kids. You owe them that.[/quote]

Agree. Sorry, but you need to keep your income up. You don’t get to decide you would rather have a cushier government job right now as you have two households to support. I noticed you did not answer the question about whether or not you are an equity partner, though. Maybe you are getting pushed out?[/quote]

No. His kids don't have a right to live in any particular house or to attend private schools. Dad makes the money, dad will decide how it is spent and what the kids will do.

He doesn't "need" a high income. His kids will do just fine if he moves to a government job.[/quote]

Yes, he does need to keep earning to keep his kids in the same home and schools. It's about maintaining the stability and friendships, not the luxury. And both parents should make decisions, not just OP.[/quote]

He doesn't need but once child support and alimony are established its hard to change incomes as he'd still be liable for the same expenses.  He actually needs to earn more to support two households vs. one and maintain the same lifestyle for both parents and kids.[/quote]

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