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While women do cheat, the fact is men cheat more than women. It may come as cold comfort to women scorned, but they don’t seem to do so with the same intention as women. Cheaters, specifically repeat cheaters, tend to be opportunistic and capable of emotional compartmentalization. Why do men cheat? Some may cheat because they are unsatisfied, but, as a rule, men don’t cheat because they are unhappy. Men cheat because they think they can get away with it and because they’re willing to let themselves get away with it. Cheating is, strangely, a behavior that can make it hard to be a good father and husband, but also a behavior that isn’t actually correlated with familial love or care.

“They think, well, I just did this but in every other way I’m reliable, I’m responsible, I’m committed, I show up, I’m a really good guy. It’s just the cheating,” Robert Weiss, a therapist and author of Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating. “What they don’t understand is that women don’t think that way.”

I think this is why female married cheaters can't understand their APs.  Women cheat when they are unhappy and want to leave the relationship.  They assume if the guy is screwing them he must feel the same about his marriage.  Not so the majority of the time.
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Man here who cheated twice and there is some accuracy to this.  Both my former APs left their marriages.  I haven't.  It's isn't so cut and dry though, my marriage was very low in sex, like 1-2x a month in a good month and even then it was begrudgingly.  I asked multiple times to address it and wife wouldn't.

I am sure there are some men who cheat just for variety, some who would never cheat except for being sexually neglected, and many like me that are a hybrid of both.  If a PP tells me she had an amazing sex life with her husband and he cheated anyway, I believe her.[/quote]

So does your wife know about your affairs?  Are you done?  Or are you going to continue lying and endangering her health and continue to have sex with others?[/quote]

A sexless wife surely must know that normal healthy men don’t live on monthly uninterested sex. What do you mean “are you done”? if he is still alive and married then that means he is meeting his sexual needs elsewhere. There is no “done” only dead or divorced.[/quote]

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