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[quote=Anonymous]I put my husband through school while working as an assistant on a low salary — we lived small. Ramen and a studio apartment in the outer burbs. Then he supported me when I wanted to stay home for a few years with our babies. When I wanted to change careers, he encouraged me to take on debt and bet on myself, even though it was for another low paying career. In the meantime, he built his career. He went from making about 60 to making ten times that over a period of years. That meant a lot of late nights, so I took on more of the home burden. Then my low paying career unexpectedly took me in a crazy direction and I suddenly found myself in demand as a consultant, which meant I had to travel more, work insane hours. My husband scaled back at work to make that happen, as he was more stable professionally at that point. He planned the play dates and did all the weekend activities for one long, hard, several month stretch. That wasn’t ideal, but he was investing in me and by extension us. Now my career has calmed down to a more ordinary rhythm and he is interested in a job that pays a fraction of his current salary, but that could lead to even better opportunities down the road if he takes the risk. I will support him through that. We are a team. Our money is joint. We support one another’s goals. We don’t always like it if one of us is too busy for as much family time as we’d like, but when you’re making these decisions, remember: you each should get a vote, but the relationship should get a vote too. You’ll have a stronger partnership and probably do better financially too if you think in terms of “us.” Been married 30-odd years, and give my own children the same advice to find a real partner for life.[/quote]

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