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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unpopular opinion, I know.  But maybe having more parents at home will bring back family values.  [/quote]

No, if anything, a lot of marriages are going through unprecedented stress right now and probably won't make it or will be dealing with the negative consequences for years.[/quote]

Yes, it's so sad too.  They're trying to maintain pre-covid lives and it's causing unneeded stress.  If only they could downsize, simplify and enjoy what they have.[/quote]

If only they could downsize (= happily lose their job and health insurance, and give up those pesky mortgage and grocery payments) and enjoy what they have, everything would be rosy.[/quote]

They can downsize. Rent an apartment to live in and rent out the SFH. The rent from the SFH might not entirely offset the lost second income, but it is better than nothing. We’re currently looking for a 3 br, 2 BA SFH in 20910 and am struggling to find a place under $2200/mo. Many places are going for $3-5000/mo. They should rent in Western MD or some other COLA for a year and things will probably be much better by then.

But stop crying over things that poor families have always faced. [/quote]

I am a dual-income familiy IN A RENTAL. We have never been able to afford a SFH.

We cannot give up the second job. Something would have to give. Here, I'll let you choose. Should we give up health insurance, the rent, or our groceries?

And before you start screaming about luxuries: we have one smartphone and one 10-year-old car between three people. Our last vacation was in 2015.[/quote]

I'm so sorry you're struggling.  I wish I could help organize small pods made up of those in your situation, along with more fortunate families, to help you out during this rough time.  I wish more families would reach out and help where they can.  I'm putting the word out here in my area, and I encourage those on this board that are lucky enough to do so in their areas too.  That is if they'll be honest with themselves and make the sacrifices to allow them to help.  [/quote]

I think you are kind of missing the point- this poster is not an outlier, this type of situation is common all over the country.  I mean it’s nice if you and your wealthy neighbors have time to work to identify some local families that need help, but this patchwork assistance doesn’t go as far as a strong, nationwide safety net and policies to support families.  [/quote]

And I think you missed my original point.   I said I know it's unpopular, but I hope the ones forced in to this situation are able to use it to teach their children values, including how to help those in need.

Too many families lack a giving spirit.  Too many have put possessions over family.  Too many would prefer to complain than to just do something.  IF all that could, would, it will help in the immediate and give those really in need help.  I wish you well.  [/quote]

Unpopular on DCYM, yes is actually a very common sentiment in conservative circles.[/quote]

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