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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I divorced 3 years ago and have dinner once a week with exDH and DD. Sometimes one of us cooks, sometimes we go out, but we make it a point to have a family meal. I do not invite my significant other as this is DDs time with her parents.

I would never date someone that doesn’t understand that while I’m divorced, this is my DDs family and her parents get along.

Yes, we’re also one of those families that still does holidays together.[/quote]

+1000. It’s about the kids and their family. Those kids don’t want dad’s girlfriend interfering with their family time. It’s awkward and uncomfortable for them, and will make them feel like girlfriend is the priority.

I think often when childless people date parents, they think it’ll be one big, happy insta-family. The reality is the exact opposite - the kids want nothing to do with you, they’re always going to come first, and there will be tension and conflict. If you can’t handle it, don’t date people with kids. [/quote]

+1. Kids of divorce have a hard enough time. Just let them have their family time with both parents, without the interference of significant others.

I think it's really hard to date divorced parents. The only way I've seen it work is when both people have kids from a previous marriage, or once where the bio dad isn't in the picture so the new husband becomes the primary dad. When I was single, I didn't date divorced dads because it was too much to take on. Now I'm married with kids. If I'm ever single again, I would never date a guy without kids. Kids vs no kids is just too stark of a difference in life phases for me. (but kudos to anyone who makes it work.)[/quote]

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