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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Here. I know parents of 4 who will use tylenol PM to put their fussy child to sleep on tough nights.  One classmate of my daughters already has several capped teeth. She's constantly sucking on lollipops when we see her at the park. Another child gets a ham sandwich for lunch every day, despite telling her mom she's committed to vegetarianism.  She confessed to me that she likes coming to my home for playdates because I don't force her to eat meat.  (My kids are vegetarian by choice; DH & I are not. Yet, accommodate everyone's dietary preferences.)

I'm sure all the parents above think they're doing a great job.  I happen to be very hyper-critical and self aware.[b] The world is full of clueless people who think they're doing an awesome job. [/b]

The world isn't so black and white.  I'd love to hear more nuanced answers from people who understand the benefits (and downsides) of being conscientious and, yes, perfectionist.

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This is you. You ask for help while  being hypercritical of others and lacking self awareness. There is a medium between you, ham sandwiches and capped teetch. [/quote]

OP here.  I don't think I'm being hypercritical of parentsl. I'd be surprised if if most people don't disapprove of medicating a child to sleep.  Are all those people hypercritical?  Are you being hypercritical of me?

I am hypercritical of my kids, some of the time.  That I concede.  It's not good.

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I clearly did a crap job of expressing myself.  I'm not smug about the sunscreen or damned hummus.  Yeah, I think enjoying an extra 15 minutes on the beach beats rubbing in sunscreen.  Yeah, wouldn't it be great to have a fridge food of prepared foods so we can squeeze in that extra Battleship game after dinner.  I didn't write things I'm proud of. I wrote things I'm ASHAMED of doing.

My kids has cake for breakfast today because it's the weekend. I let them try whatever they want if they make good food choices overall.  No one is has an eating disorder. I had to reply to this because it just irks me.  Thank god the kids these days aren't constantly askng "do I look fat in this?" like my friends did way back.
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