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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hopefully a niece or nephew.  They are very vulnerable to abuse.  People on DCUM think having money will protect them as they age, but they just don’t realize how vulnerable you can be when you you are elderly.    This story haunts me, and the couple even had a daughter looking after them, and they were still abused.  They’d never have been found if it weren’t for her.

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/10/09/how-the-elderly-lose-their-rights[/quote]

This is so sad. [/quote]

Haven't read the article, but I have news for you, even when you have adult children, you can get taken advantage of. My mother is of sound mind supposedly, yet she is being conned by a niece and a few other people. If you dare bring it up you deal with enough venom to make you want to jump off a bridge. My siblings expect me to monitor her giving away of money, yet I am supposed to look the other way that they both have her funding cars, private school and much more. I have a spouse, a job and kids of my own. According to tests she is of sound mind. Meanwhile she has no problems being verbally abusive toward me. If you think I want to do in my health and sanity trying to keep her from blowing her money all while wondering when/if her tirades will turn physical with me, you can forget it. At some point you have to step back and decide I have to protect my own family. I have no doubt the niece will try to move her in and "take care of her" all while spending her money and claiming to be a saint. She is shady as F. Even when I agreed my mother was of sound mind she fell for the nieces endless dramas and would throw a little money at her now and then, the amount has just increased.

For me, I will track my cognitive abilities and past a certain age, I will stop screeners and if I get cancer I will not fight it. I have been through a living hell helping my aging parents and I will not do this to my own children even if it means going somewhere to legally end things on my own terms at a certain  age.

Children cannot sit and guard you 24-7 and deal with every emergency and wipe your tush because the tushy wiper you hired may steal all the money too.

What is so fascinating to me with my dad is at the very end he would have been unable to walk, talk, eat independently or do anything he enjoyed and hospice made it clear the humane thing to do would be to let him go peacefully. Nope, the siblings felt if there was another year of him living, if you can call it that, they wanted it. So he spend a month in a hospital in misery constantly needing pain meds adjusted trying to pull off tubes with what little strength he had so they could feel less guilty collecting their part of an inheritance perhaps? It's not like they spent that much time with him when he was truly living.[/quote]

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