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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is why I'm saving money for my childless younger sister.  It will go in a trust that my children can use to cover the costs of visiting her (travel, mainly) and also some of the care she may need when her money runs out.  I'll probably be dead by then so I can only hope it helps.  [/quote]

wow, that is truly amazing.  I don't think I've ever heard of something so generous.
-childless younger sister[/quote]

I know someone who did that and it caused a major reparable rift in the marriage. The adult children barely helped her and made it clear they were not helping the sister. In their defense, they had their own mental and physical health issues and had jobs to keep and kids to raise. It was unrealistic to put so much on them.[/quote]

Forgot to add, the husband basically ended up moving out because she was planning for the sister and not making decisions as a couple.

I don't think people understand the stress you put on the next generation when you don't do what you can to take care of your health and plan for your future. If you want them to hold down jobs, have marriages and raise children they cannot be at your beckon call. There were countless emergencies with one of my parents and I at one point I had to figure out if I was having a heart attack from all the stress of it or heartburn. I am so very fortunate it was heartburn because I didn't go to the ER and the pain took my breath away. You know why i didn't go to the ER? After dealing with an ill father and a mother who has tantruming right and left, I had to make dinner and help one kid study for an exam and comfort the other who was very upset after witnessing grandma's abusive behavior toward me. Fun times![/quote]

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