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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Late 20’s is too young to marry[/quote]

Not really.  Female fertility declines quickly in your 30s.[/quote]

Not everything in life is about marriage and babies! Has it ever occurred to you that not everyone wants that type of lifestyle?! Instead of OP mourning that she might not get grandchildren, she should be proud that her kids are thinking for themselves and not conforming to what society thinks they should be doing. [/quote]

Isn't society informing millennials with a fantasy as well? Pretty sure that will fall apart let say around 48 to 55. I guess everyone's idea of fantasy is different. [/quote]

Wait what happens at 48? I am 47 and don't regret not having kids (yet). Is something going to change in the next year? Please prepare me![/quote]

Feel free to grow older without family, if that's your preference.  Check on many other threads here about aging parents. Additionally, you eventually will retire and realize that your career was just a job. Maybe you have an ongoing support network,  lots of friends who are also childless, but that would be a rarity.  [/quote]

Oh I see - you're telling me life is meaningless without children and one day I will be forced to realize that, even if I have zero interest in raising kids. Got it. Thanks![/quote]

NP.  These outdated attitudes are funny.  I am 45 and also wondering what will happen in the next couple of years to suddenly make me fall apart.  I  already see my career as just a job.  A lot of younger people do.  They don't invest in those things as the be all and end all.  I love my life and don't think it's a rarity to have lots of friends who are childless.  Most of my friends all in their 40's don't have children  some through circumstance some by choice however it is not a rarity in my life.  I also have friends who are parents.

I thought I was going to grow older with family.  I have siblings and cousins all who have children, I'm pretty sure they are still family.  I don't have the same fears as you about growing older without children.  I have always been very independent.

Life isn't a box that everyone falls into and one size fits all.  Some people wanted children and are happy to have them, I just don't for the life of me understand why they can't understand that there are other people who don't want children and are just as happy.  Really people are so different how can people not understand that.

As for falling apart now that may be the moms at work, they have to have wine to just get through the evening and the stories I hear of them sitting in their car outside their house because they don't want to face what's inside.  Meh people will fall apart at some stage in their life over something but for me it won't be related to whether I have children.[/quote]

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