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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wife is about 40 pounds overweight and short. She’s obese. I’m not really attracted to her anymore. Weight gain mostly started 5 years after last kid—[b]this is not kid related. She just stopped working out and started eating more and more sweets and drinking more and more wine. [/b] She doesn’t seem to care about looking good for me. Also a terrible role mode for our kids. But I don’t want to hurt our kids with divorce. (The rest of our relationship is ok—not amazing or terrible.) Any suggestions *from women* about how to talk to wife? [/quote] May not be pregnancy related, but often it's kid related. Does she have time to work out? Actual time, not "after the kids go to bed" or "she can wake up an hour earlier". Pitch in with the kids more and take over morning/evening routines so she can get a workout in. Who cooks? Take over half of the cooking (breakfast, lunch, and dinner - not just 3 dinners a week) and make healthy food. The wine is a coping mechanism for something. What's she stressed about? [/quote] OP here. I do more than half the cooking and she works less than me. I make the time to workout. She doesn’t and refuses. [/quote] Lazy is lazy bro. She’s addicted to food and booze. Just like an alcoholic you can’t tell a fat person not to eat. Their rational brain can’t control their addiction to food[/quote] Science is showing that much of this is genetic and hormonal. So don’t be so quick to judge. Can you try focusing on what you DO love about her? Hopefully that was not driven largely by her dress size. Don’t let you penis dictate your future![/quote] So does the same science say it was not genetic and hormonal prior to 1990 in the US? Obesity was rare in the [b]1950's, 1960's, 1970's and 1980's [/b]etc and certainly in the [b]1920's, 1930's, and 1940's.[/b] It is really interesting to look at crowd shots from earlier times.[/quote] It is also really interesting to read about how to correctly use apostrophes. [/quote]
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