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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a high earning woman and find it hard to meet equally high earning men. I don’t want their money- but I don’t want to pay for them to afford my lifestyle either.

I’ve found dating to be a lot of fun, but I don’t plan to truly couple up till my youngest is out of the house- so ive got about 6 years left. 44 and single with no Financial worries and free time when they’re w their dad is pretty sweet. No interest in risking that for some man.[/quote]

That’s fine.

Just keep in mind that most men don’t mind financially supporting a woman. Men who you regard as your “equal” are rare and in a position to be choosy. And men care way less about a woman’s earning potential. That’s why you see much older men (with money/good jobs) with younger women and rarely the other way around.[/quote]

I disagree based on experience. I choose not to date 20year olds because they don’t appeal to me- not a child
Molester. I prefer to sleep with men. The reason you don’t see women dating poor guys 20 years their senior is because we don’t want to.  I think marriages or relationships  between equals are not as rare as you’d think.

I’d wonder if most agree with you that  divorced fathers raising kids on their own don’t mind supporting a new dependent (they’re already paying alimony and CS) I would. My kids come first. He’s going to be able to pull his own weight to consider someone actual relationship weight.  [/quote]

It may feel like you are making a choice, but it’s biology. Women generally are wired to heavily weigh a man’s status and ability to provide. That’s why you aren’t interested in young men. That’s why you want your equal.

Men are different. They are wired to seek fertility and a nurturing personality. Most men don’t expect to marry their socioeconomic “equal.”[/quote]

Women don’t want or expect to marry an “equal” either. Women want to “marry up”. Women love to pretend they are “equals” to their high SES husbands but if they actually thought they were equal to him they would despise him (this would be called “settling”).
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Don’t derail the thread with redpill hyperbole.[/quote]

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