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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a high earning woman and find it hard to meet equally high earning men. I don’t want their money- but I don’t want to pay for them to afford my lifestyle either.

I’ve found dating to be a lot of fun, but I don’t plan to truly couple up till my youngest is out of the house- so ive got about 6 years left. 44 and single with no Financial worries and free time when they’re w their dad is pretty sweet. No interest in risking that for some man.[/quote]

That’s fine.

Just keep in mind that most men don’t mind financially supporting a woman. Men who you regard as your “equal” are rare and in a position to be choosy. And men care way less about a woman’s earning potential. That’s why you see much older men (with money/good jobs) with younger women and rarely the other way around.[/quote]

I disagree based on experience. I choose not to date 20year olds because they don’t appeal to me- not a child
Molester. I prefer to sleep with men. The reason you don’t see women dating poor guys 20 years their senior is because we don’t want to.  I think marriages or relationships  between equals are not as rare as you’d think.

I’d wonder if most agree with you that  divorced fathers raising kids on their own don’t mind supporting a new dependent (they’re already paying alimony and CS) I would. My kids come first. He’s going to be able to pull his own weight to consider someone actual relationship weight.  [/quote]

It may feel like you are making a choice, but it’s biology. Women generally are wired to heavily weigh a man’s status and ability to provide. That’s why you aren’t interested in young men. That’s why you want your equal.

Men are different. They are wired to seek fertility and a nurturing personality. Most men don’t expect to marry their socioeconomic “equal.”[/quote]

No one has a good idea on how much of this behavior is driven by biology vs. conditioning.  Let's not state things as fact when they are assumptions.  Women over the next several generations will behave differently than those in the past as more women work and study and earn a wage to live independently.  Many men here already say that they would never marry someone who is a SAHM divorced woman because of financial/other reasons.  Money is a factor for many men as well.  Your opinions on these matters are not scientific fact.[/quote]

Of course money/status is a factor for men. It’s just not as important to men as it is for women. Sure, this probably isn’t “scientifically proven,” but it is consistent with most people’s actual dating habits. And men’s aversion to divorced SAHMs has little to do with money. Those same men would be fine with a childless women with little-to-no career as long as she was attractive. Women, on the other hand, are almost never okay with good-looking-but-broke men.

And it’s probably a good thing that the sexes prioritize different things. That makes it possible for couples to combine relative strengths to their maximum benefit. [/quote]

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