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[quote=Anonymous]As a PP said, you are postponing the inevitable.  I've been through what you're going through.  Once with my grandmother and again with my FIL.  Your mother is in decline and is likely at the point she needs to be in a facility.  Yes, I know you said your father is opposed to it but by accommodating him, you are prolonging the inevitable - at a cost to you and your marriage.

My DH's inability to have his father cared for in a facility nearly broke our marriage.  We'd been married 10+ years when it started, had a 2 year period of hell and it probably took another 4 years before our marriage was no longer shaky.  If my FIL hadn't died when he did, we would have been divorced. The long term impact of caring for someone at home with too little support is soul crushing with very real mental health risks.  You are too far away to be relied upon and even if your father were to retire tomorrow with full benefits, he cannot be a full time caretaker.

Team wife on this. [/quote]

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