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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry for your mom‘s distress.  There is no asset testing on social security income - it’s based on your age and history of earnings/work. There is no discussion of what you own or finances you have. What kind of vehicle she has does not affect SS qualification or income, just depends on what she’s paid into SS from her prior employment over the years. Has she applied for some other sort of compensation instead of SS that does means testing? Taking SS before her full age will cost her money over the rest of her life, may not be best short term decision if she’s close to full benefits age. Could you fly her out to stay with you for awhile until things can get sorted out? Sounds like there is more to this story, for her to be homeless with nobody around to help her there. Perhaps there are homeless shelters that can help her get back on her feet and offer housing and food? [/quote]

When she lost her job she applied for everything...unemployment, food stamps, govt financial assistance, social security retirement. She said that she hasn't heard back from anyone except the social security folks. At first I thought she might have been confusing the asset testing with another one of these programs but it doesn't seem likely since she hasn't heard from back from anyone else.

She can stay with me for up to two consecutive weeks each year. To get her here with me permanently would require me to break the lease where I'm at and look for a place that's suitable for us all which will take time and effort. I'm barely staying afloat as is trying to keep up with working  from home during COVID-19 with no childcare plus homeschooling and feeding my children daily. It's a lot to have to do all this while trying to help mom. I'm prepared to do the best I can but I cannot jeopardize my own living/financial situation at this point.

She was originally living in CA with her husband and stayed once their marriage broke down. We have no other family in CA.

The homeless shelters near her are all at capacity even more so due to all of the financial hardships in the midst of COVID-19.

I'm also looking into senior community type places in VA to see if I can get her into a reduced rent 1 BR or studio for seniors that are 55+.[/quote]

Have you ever considered this could be the solution you’re looking for?

Even if her SSI is only $500/mo that will cover a larger place for your family and her.

You might not even have to break your lease if you move within the building. Plus she could provide childcare which you just said you need.

Unless she was a drug addict or something, why are you so resistant to her moving in?[/quote]

I'm renting space from a private owner. We would need to find a new place alltogether.

Mom and I haven't lived together since I was 14. She tries to visit each year since my children (6 & 8) were born and we end up arguing after a day or two each time. The last fight was so bad that she didn't come to visit last year so I haven't seen her in two years and am trying (against my better judgement) to repair our relationship. There's lots of history which I cannot go into here that happened during childhood that has caused us to be distant.[/quote]

You just got to suck it up under the circumstances, I know a family 6 living in one room apartment with bad-tempered and partially senile semi=abusive father but fam trying to make it work until this situation is over. Are they supposed to have that many folks in their apartment, hell no but they make it work. When things get bad my friend goes sits in the car by herself in the parking lot. [/quote]

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