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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Things are not equal, yes; whether that is fair or not depends a lot on how you personally define fairness, and upon circumstances that you may or may not be aware of. If you choose to let that blow apart your family relationships, that’s on you.

My values tell me that my relationships are more than the transfer of material goods, services, or cash. How was your relationship with the grandparents besides this? Are you really willing to torch this relationship over this perceived inequity?

Whether you think this is reasonable grounds to alienate your children from their grandparents will say a lot about what your values are.[/quote]

Sure, this is something that a disfavored child can overcome. I never said otherwise. They can draw upon resilience and set boundaries so as to not let resentment build up. I never said that was impossible.

The difference is that these grandparents are not using their financial assets as tool to build family unity, rather as something that their (unflavored) children have to overcome. The wealthy understand that this is a stupid approach. Everyone in the family is better off when you can work together to build wealth and (equitably) pass it on to the next generation.

The middle class’ lack of emotional and financial literacy towards generational wealth is yet another reason why they can never catch up. The wealthy aren’t as naive. [/quote]

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