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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
So if your wife is mad at you for something, do you still expect to her to have sex with you?    [/QUOTE]
Not the PP but yes, I do. [b] I can put aside my feelings of anger to still enjoy sex.  Does every bit of anger, resentment, or even feeling annoyed have to be gone in order to clear the slate for sex?  That seems impossible in a long-term marriage.  Can those things be worked on while still having sex?  Or do they all need to be resolved first?  That doesn't seem reasonable or a good excuse to cut your partner off. [/b]
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Does she have *any* say in whether she puts out?  [/QUOTE]
Indeed, she has total say or this thread (and 100 more that preceded it)would not exist.
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You want her to basically be a prostitute and give it up just because you put a ring on her finger?[/quote]
A woman having sex with her husband is not prostituting herself.  Dramatic much?  But if you want to call it that, then yes, I'm fine with it. If me putting a ring on her finger means that she expects monogamy from me, same as I do her, then I feel justified in expecting her, my only sex partner, to have sex with me.

I feel like there aren't that many women who really don't understand this and, in fairness to women, it works both ways.  Women aren't the only ones who unilaterally lose interest in sex.  By my estimates, about 20% of married women above the age of 35 would have sex with a man outside of her marriage, given the chance.[/quote]
Yep, this explains why she doesn't want sex with you.  You have zero clue about how a woman's brain and body works.

And you view things as black and white.  Some resentment can be managed; others take a while, and then there's the resentment that she won't ever be able to get over and impacts how she views you.

If she doesn't "get over it" in five days will you step out on her?    You don't seem to even be the type to figure out what the issue is let alone work on it.

So why don't you just divorce her then?  Maybe that will turn her on and make her want to have sex with you. Good luck with that. [/quote]

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