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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel everyone in this thread.  I am in big law and there is a lot of pressure for everything to be "business as usual" and my husband is in consulting.  We have three kids -- 5, 2, and 10 months.  We have an au pair, but she can't handle all three on her own (she normally just has the 10 month old and the 2 year old half days).  It is a disaster with help I can't even imagine having no help.  I love my kids so much, but have never ever had a time in life where I wish I was single and childless!  [/quote]

With all due respect, there’s no reason the au pair can’t handle all three while you work. SAHMs do this every day. She should be able to manage while you work, that’s her job! You aren’t demanding too much. Hang in there. [/quote]

She's a freaking au pair, not a SAHM! God. An au pair is a teenager. Young adult at most. What is wrong with you? A big law employee is working 10-12 hour days. Plus a spouse in consulting. That's not au pair-level child care.[/quote]

She is an employee, and many au pairs deal with three kids routinely.[/quote]

NP but you’re kind of ridiculous. Her au pair clearly did not sign up for this and this is sudden so that is irrelevant. She’s gone from probably having 2-3 hours of quiet time during nap to zero. She also can just leave and go home at anytime if she wants, this isn’t indentured servitude despite what many may think, and many au pairs may not want to be here under these circumstances ruining all travel plans / social distancing. These are also young kids that don’t understand why mommy and daddy are at home but can’t play with them, are out of their normal routine and may be extra whiny/emotional/difficult. I have this same problem, OP, my very young kids cry every time they see me. Sure I could just let them all be, but I feel horribly guilty if I do, in part because it’s exhausting and not what the au pair signed up for, and also because they are babies!  people need to be a little bit understanding in this time.[/quote]

It's not ridiculous to use the au pair that you hired for childcare while trying to work from home.  The ten month old didn't come out of nowhere, this has been a three kid family for quite a long time.  OF COURSE the au pair can't work 10-12 hour days (as per her contract that regulates these things), and of course she will need breaks and private time, and of course everyone should be kind to each other at this stressful time - but none of that means these parents can't reasonably expect the au pair to take on babysitting three kids at once.[/quote]

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