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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of kids - girls especially - are dicks at that age.  I was.

Maybe just keep doing what you're doing, try not to take it personally and at some point she will realize she's being a dick and needs to stop taking her feelings out on you.[/quote]

Thank you for this perspective.  This is what my BF keeps encouraging me to do.  It's hard to walk into a house and have someone run upstairs. But I will persevere. Again, like i said, it's not often that we run into one another but we want to move things forward--and by that i mean, see each other more.[/quote]

New poster here.  It’s not personal although it feels that way.  To some extent you have to ignore it. If she chooses to take herself out of things and go to her room, while everyone else is having fun, that’s her choice.   My teenage daughter gets that way where she is mad at the world and we don’t understand her and she is persecuted in life.  So it is part “woe is me”.  The other part though is she is trying to “punish” us and make things difficult perhaps thinking it would change our mind the next time.  It’s the satisfaction of you made me mad so now I am doing the same to you, and it’s maybe a sense of control.   I’ve learned that you can’t win a power struggle.  It didn’t work with potty training, doesn’t work with food, and doesn’t work whatever thing teenager is upset about.  I can however have natural consequences to choices she makes and when she is calm enough to talk, have conversations about things.   It’s an older version of toddler having a tantrum. I wouldn’t say to wait until college because these days there are no guarantees she goes away to college or doesn’t boomerang back.  Also, once she is an adult it might not be going to her room, it might be taking the car somewhere or going off with some guy.  [/quote]

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