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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]40

Seems like several of the people answering 20 had their kids close to that age (early 20s).  They have no idea what they missed out on.  Having a life as a young adult free from the responsibility of being a parent is an amazing and formative time of life that can never be replicated.  [/quote]

Disagree. Most of us lived our 20s single, getting educated and climbing the corporate ladder. It was young, wild parties, travel and carefree sex. Now we are paying for it with fertility issues. Had I met my husband earlier, I would easily replace my 20s with less office time and more family time. I don’t look back fondly on those losers I dated then. Such wasted time and wasted youth.  Stop looking back with rose colored glasses.[/quote]

Hmm...I guess my 20s were both, getting my PhD but also traveling the world and having a lot of fun. Free to explore, be creative, have time alone. I had my kids in my 30s. Now I have seniority and can flex my schedule for school hours. It hasn’t all been a cakewalk but I love that I would never resent my kids or feel they held me back. I don’t look forward to an empty nest or traveling when I am old. Sure, it will be nice, but nothing beats wild backpacking all over Asia or seeing Europe with girlfriends when you are young... living in big cities when you have the energy. Now I am perfectly fine and content with a familiar bed and being there for my family.[/quote]

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