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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are still in the little kid years (ages 1 and 3) and man the kids take up a ton of energy.  Obviously, I knew our time would be limited when we had kids but I didn't realize how much physical energy it would consume.  We mostly play with the kids at home or outside/playground so not really a lot of activities but even doing what we do there's not a lot of energy left for each other.  We're grinding through it as best we can but these little kid years are tough for sure.  [/quote]

Exact same situation here, kids also 1 and 3. We both work full time (and then some) in demanding jobs outside of the home, and we are perpetually exhausted. My husband is an incredibly hands on dad and partner but we definitely lack quality time together. By the time the kids are in bed, the chores are done, and work emails have been wrapped up, we are falling into bed in a dead sleep. I schedule sex to maintain a connection... not exactly romantic but it is what it is right now. [/quote]

Those ages are incredibly tiring. My youngest is 5.5 and you could not pay me to go back to the years I had kids ages 0-5. Unless I just had one. But multiple children close together for years on end are exhausting. One baby is easy. A baby and a toddler and a preschooler are tough. But now it is so much easier. There are different worries and complications and busy-ness, but I get regular sleep and the kids can do so much more for themselves. It happened very slowly, but then all of the sudden we were there and things became easier. [/quote]

Hang in there, poster with a 1yo & 3yo! I also would not go back to those years for ANYthing- love our kids so much but those years were really hard for us. I noticed a huge improvement when the youngest was around 4. [/quote]

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