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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I pulled some key lines from your update. I know you don't want anyone to think your husband is a jerk, and you don't want to think that either. I'm not saying he's a jerk. I'm just offering your own words:

OP here. thanks for all the input. Didn't mean to disappear, but we went to Sunday school and I feel like I got behind. But, I'll try to answer some things:

[b]I cannot retire.

We support his son about 80% financially.

So, my husband has a lovely nest egg... but it's there and untouched due to my labor.

He will still need me providing health insurance for him for several years. I currently provide it for both kids as well.[/b]

So, he has been and is dependent on your income. So he needs to step up (not even all that much IMO!)

[b]I just think he's sometimes blind to how exhausting my day can be. Especially after a 30 hour shift when I'm staying awake to do pickup, dinner, etc. He just sees that I've been missing all night and he's been handling everything. [/b]

Yes, and he needs to come to Jesus (or whomever) about this. Maybe it can be done gently, maybe via a therapist, but I have the feeling this is not the only issue of this sort, even if he does do a lot more than his father ever did, etc., etc.

[b]I'm fine with keeping all the management tasks. I'm much more organized than he is, and I don't mind doing that stuff.[/b]

Yes, women always* say this. That is also labor. I find it unlikely that you truly have a 50/50 division even now, but you probably feel lucky he's not a gigantic chauvinist a$$ and "call it fair."

OP-- You need to work a few kinks out in your relationship, at the very least.

*Obviously not always blah blah blah.[/quote]

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