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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I've read all your posts and I do think you need to have a serious talk with your husband.  I can't believe he wouldn't offer to do more given your work schedule and especially considering the fact that YOUR job is what is putting his son through private college and put him through private school and it is YOUR job that will be providing health insurance for your family.  Also, you love your job, which is awesome.  My husband has discussed retiring early as well (we are the same age but due to many years of graduate school I have worked a "real" job for fewer years.  We currently split things 50/50 but we also work about the same hours and make about the same amount of money.  We also outsource a lot (housekeeper, gardener, nanny, etc.).  We agreed if he did retire then we wouldn't need the nanny anymore but would keep the maid and gardener.  But he would essentially become the SAHP.  I am a mere lawyer, not an ICU doctor like you, and even with my relatively easy job I can't imagine that we'd keep the same schedule if he was retired from his job.  For sure I'd sleep in later and I wouldn't have to get back on my computer after dinner some nights because I could stay later to finish something if needed because he could do dinner.  I think you need to make clear to your husband how much you are bringing to the table in this scenario and that it's not fair that he get to just retire from life.  That's now how it work at all.  I'm sorry you're in this boat.  I'm in awe of what you do and I'm grateful for people like you.[/quote]

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