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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m guessing there are a lot of bitter divorced women posting on this thread. [b]I am in an intact marriage with no steps in sight,[/b] but I wouldn’t accept ungrateful behavior from my kids. If I took them to see a movie they wanted to see, they don’t necessarily have to say the words “thank you” but they have to show their appreciation through excitement, cheerfulness, maybe helping out with something without being asked, etc. If they act dour before and after I’ll be like WTF. [b]Yes, I know divorced kids have it harder, but these kids hardly seem like they’re living a tough life, with $1500 presents showered on them.[/b] Divorce is harder if you’re poor. Both of their parents need to chat with them about being kind and appreciative.[/quote]

1). You don't know the circumstance of the movie.

2) The second bolded part shows so much ignorance I don't even know where to start.  It's incredibly materialistic to assume that kids of divorce don't have it tough because they get "stuff".  It's shallow.  And you gloss over "yeah, divorce sucks but...." as if you have a single clue as to how devastating it is.  So let me help you.

Imagine a world where you have no say whatsoever in your family being ripped apart.  You now have to spend half your life in one place and half in another, again no say on what the schedule is.  You spend your holidays in a split situation, and guess what?  You will never have a Christmas or a thanksgiving or a single holiday as an adult with your entire family.  Your holidays will be split, your vacations will be split.  When you have news to share you have to make two calls.  When your kids want to visit grandma and grandpa they have to make two trips.  Once you become an adult you will hear from both parents how you spend more time with the other parent, and when you factor in the time you spend with inlaws you will see just how complicated life and holidays and graduations and family pictures will be.  If your parents really can't stand each other then who sits at your table at your wedding?  Who walks you down the aisle?  How do you word the wedding invitations?  Are you getting the pattern here?

But yeah, enjoy $1500 in presents that you never asked for and were given because your mom and dad are using you as a pawn to compete.  And you're not being grateful for it, what's wrong with you?

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