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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. I feel sad reading these messages. Family should only visit for three days?  I have a 10-year-old, and when I think that down the road I should only visit for three days at a time, I feel sad. My in-laws have stayed with us for a week, a couple weeks, even a couple months. Sure it can be a strain, but we should figure out ways to make longer visits than 3 days possible.

OP, it does sound like your DIL may be feeling spent from the holidays. That’s not anything to do specifically with you.  [/quote]

Remember DCUM is full of miserable people who largely hate their families. It's good for entertainment, but don't take it seriously. These are not the people to model.[/quote]

Nope.  I have an incredibly close immediate and extended family.  A lot of that is because people aren’t afraid to voice they’ve had enough.  Everyone reads clues well also.  Nobody imposes.  We genuinely love each other’s company.  However, guests underfoot for longer than a long weekend —ugh.[/quote]

[b]OP's DIL is being a petulant drama queen. [/b]Of course having guests for long periods of time is not always easy, but there are also a lot of benefits and sometimes you don't always get what you want, even the entitled DILs of DCUM. Sometimes, acting like an adult is required in life and frankly makes life better. I really love my ILs, and yes, long visits aren't always easy, but the benefits are worth the minor inconvenience.

I am always shocked at just how strained and distant families on DCUM are. No guests for longer than a weekend? How do you keep close to distant relatives who want to visit, and who might not be able to afford hotel rooms?  I genuinely don't think people on DCUM understand how to have close family relationships. It's certainly nothing to model or aspire to.

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What? Where do you see anything about what the DIL is doing, other than encouraging her ILs to help themselves and retiring to her room in the evening when the children do? That sounds very gracious to me.
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OP said she's being cold and will barely talk to her. That's petulant and rude.[/quote]

Gee, you think maybe that’s in reaction to OP being overbearing and annoying?[/quote]

Perhaps it is. But regardless, it's still petulant and rude behavior from a host. And honestly, I haven't read too much from OP that makes me think she's being a bad guest; after all, she was invited to stay, and she's offering to help. What I see here is a sulky, whiny DIL who is being rude. [/quote]

What I see here is an OP who told her side of the story, then ran away when people were like yeah, that's too long. Hmm.

You see OP's perception of her DIL, not the two-sided reality. [/quote]

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