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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love this so much. My in-laws are pretty nice and never announce the kitchen is closed, but they never have enough food at meals. There's often no carb and very limited quantities. One year we were allotted [b]4 stems of asparagus, a small portion of fish, and an artichoke each[/b]. I was breastfeeding twins and literally ate almost an entire turkey alone the week before when visiting my family... [/quote]
Even if that’s how they normally eat, are they unfamiliar with the concept of being hospitable to guests? Have they never been guests in anyone else’s home? Never watched a single Food Network show where food is prepared for entertaining? I was raised so differently that I cannot understand this. I leave snacks in my guest room when my parents visit, just in case they’re hungry sometime late at night and don’t want to bother me. What kind of monster doesn’t check in with a breastfeeding mother (to twins no less!) to make sure she has everything she needs? I’m experiencing second hand distress over this.[/quote]

This is not as uncommon as you’d think. I was breastfeeding and my parents served one ready-to-serve can of soup for lunch, split between 4 people! WTF? They also seemed annoyed when I sent DH to Panera for sandwiches because there was “plenty of food.”[/quote]

+2  Old people lose their appetite and don't understand how much younger people need to eat.  My grandparents ate very little in their 80s.  My parents do this a bit too.  They never did it when we were younger, and they don't do it for big dinners/official hosting, but if we're just ordering take out together or something, we do NOT leave the ordering to them.  They significantly underestimate how much my DH and adult bro need to eat.  My WASP FIL does not have that problem.  He has a healthy appetite.  Maybe it just depends on their own appetite and they assume that whatever is filling to them will be filling to others too.  My FIL is always giving us huge portions.  To the point that we will request a "FIL size piece" of cake, etc. if we want a big piece.  [/quote]

My ILs are like this too, and my father is getting there, though he was generally a "put food on the table until it groaned" kind of guy.  I do think WTF when my MIL serves one piece of filet mignon for 4 people, but you know, I may get there too when I'm old.  Just like how my kids are older now and I don't remember how exhausting taking care of little kids is.

As for lack of food in the house and not serving enough food at gatherings, my MIL gets so anxious about having leftovers that she and FIL "can't possibly finish" that they significantly underserve the crowd.  I don't know why that bothers her so much, but it does.  Maybe something to do with Depression-era mentality of not wasting food?  Anyway, she gets really anxious about people bringing more food than she planned, even if we assure her that we will eat it.

Well, thank goodness they're local so we've never been trapped there for days with nothing to eat.  [/quote]

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