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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I went back to full time work this year, kids are 11 and 9. I didn’t need to financially, just thought it would Be nice to have something for myself, have something to do other than volunteer, exercise and watch tv. I worked part time previously and thought it made sense to go back to full time work

Here’s what happened. Work sucks. My co workers are lame, there is no flexibility. I am punishing myself with this stupid job for no reason. Almost a year in and I’m counting the days until I can quit. Literally.

Maybe there is some magic job out there where it’s more value add than value take, but this one isn’t it. [/quote]

This is what the worry about. Work has always sucked ime[/quote]

+1, that's how I remember it which is why I'm in no hurry to go back.[/quote]

The thing is if you stay in the workforce you EARN flexibility, you build up vacation time, you work your way up and have work to do that you enjoy (whatever that means to you...the substance of the work, more or less responsibility, etc.), you build relationships and gravitate to co-workers you enjoy, you contribute something of value and are seen as someone who brings value which circles back to earning flexibility.

[b]But no, you're not going to come back to the workforce after 5-10+ years out and step into a great situation.  Which is why I'd think twice about quitting in the first place.[/b]

I think it's short sighted[/quote]

Ding ding ding[/quote]

This is exactly it.  SAHMs never understand this because they either a) left the workforce when they were too junior to have flexibility/seniority/etc or b) listen to their workaholic husbands who never step away from their desks.

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Eh- I was in sales before, left at 31 to raise my kids for a decade and am killing it in sales again at 44. I work from home. It may not be the norm but it’s my reality. I will clear over $360k this year.[/quote]

Not even close to the norm, which you know.

I also don't understand these questions.  Of course work is not enjoyable 100% of the time.  I'm guessing your marriages aren't, your children aren't, your friendships aren't, etc.  There is a VAST difference between cleaning toilets and McDonalds and having a job that is intellectually stimulating, makes the world better, allows equity in your marriage, allows you to use your education and set a good example for your children, etc. Like others here, I don't 'have' to work, but I enjoy it.  I also don't expect it to be all butterflies and rainbows because.... life.  [b]I can't imagine sitting on my butt while my husband worked to provide.  It blows my mind that people think that's any way to live [/b](once kids are in school, that is.)[/quote]

Why? It's not like their husbands care. Why should you?

I think the issue for these rich SAHMs is their lives are mostly butterflies and rainbows and the prospect of going back to work...isn't.

I'm not one of them btw but I'd love to say my daily life consists of reading, working out, watching tv, hanging with my kids and friends, like a PP mentioned. I mean, throw in some more hobbies and maybe volunteer activities and who wouldn't prefer that?

As far as jobs go, mine isn't bad (lawyer) but if I didn't need the money, I'd quit in a second.[/quote]

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