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[quote=Anonymous]team jon, and I'll tell you why:

- Kate's treatment of Collin is exactly the dynamic I've seen in families where there's a scapegoat/identified patient and a personality disordered parent.  Sending the kid away for "treatment" as opposed to keeping them in the family.
- It's likely sending Collin away was at least in part driven by his inability to cope in the public school setting.
- Collin may have ADHD or other issues (my guess is aggression) but institutionalizing for that for THREE YEARS is a drastic solution.
- Jon retained physical (visitation) rights but not legal. This gave Kate broad latitude to institutionalize Collin
- Jon may have been persuaded into signing away legal custody rights as part of an overall parenting plan. Most people don't necessarily get what that means - I'm sure he never anticipated that it meant she would institutionalize one of their kids. 
- If Kate decided to violate their custody agreement by refusing visitation and refusing to tell him where Collin was, it's not like there's an immediate legal remedy for that.  The legal process doesn't work that way.  It take time and money.   To my eye, once Jon got it together, he pushed forward with that process.
- Based on my experience with personality disordered parents, Jon's initial decision to distance himself from the family and not fight Kate on visitation is somewhat understandable.  The thing about personality disorders is that the BPD/NPD person is willing to GO THERE - take the nuclear option - and make life chaos for everyone.  Sometimes it's an understandable and perhaps not horrible choice for one parent to back off and keep a modicum of stability.  Based on my experience, the "normal" parent sometimes comes back into the kids' lives when the kids get older and can make their own decisions.  That is the pattern that Jon is following.
- Given all this history, I can't blame Jon for telling his story to the press.  If he starts to exploit it, then yeah, not great. [/quote]

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