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[quote=Anonymous]oh my god really. Are you my husband? We both WOH in fairly demanding jobs and my husband travels one week a month, which is a shitshow for me. We have a 4 month old and a newish 2 year old. We have a nanny for the baby and the older one is in full time daycare. I am lucky in that I can work from home when he is traveling (otherwise I lose so much time in the car). But the baby is still waking up multiple times at night and too young to sleep train, the last time DH traveled the baby had a cold and would not sleep in his bed. Meanwhile, work was blowing up and I would have to log back on until midnight after I finally got both kids down (oh and baby woke 3x before midnight too). I got maybe 3-4 shitty hours of sleep each night, and then had to hustle the 2yo out of bed/our the door, feed the baby, run to do pickup before the nanny left, get everyone fed, toddler bath and in bed. It was a freaking whirlwind that left me exhausted. My DH while he’s gone is always so apologetic and promises he’ll handle everything a couple of nights when he’s back it when I’m actually shaking him awake that first night back he literally asked me if I could handle it and that he couldn’t deal with waking up every few hours.

If I wasn’t so tired I would’ve punched him.

Look I understand how sleeping at the hotel can be not restful. I actually sleep poorly on business trips as well, unfamiliar environment, paranoia over oversleeping, etc. and it can be exhausting. My DH does a lot of driving on his trips and I know how tiring it is. But that does not remotely compare to the schlepping of 3 kids to and from wherever they have to be, dealing with ALL night wakeups, and generally being responsible for keeping all 3 kids alive, clean and fed is really exhausting especially when also working out of the home.

Apologize profusely to your wife for ever having told her you need more rest after a business trip and suck it up! This too shall pass but not if she kills you[/quote]

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