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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Correct. PP, this is called the mental load and it's an ongoing theme in most marriages, [/quote]

The "mental load" or "emotional labor" = made-up bullshit that women invent so they can feel put-upon and grumble about perfectly decent, hard-working, loving husbands. Sad![/quote]

Some of it yes, some of it no. Take it from a perspective of the stuff MEN tend to spearhead:

1) have a shiny and detailed car- unnecessary BUT schedule and take car for routine maintenance- necessary 
2) have perfect looking lawn- unnecessary BUT cleaning gutters or hiring someone- necessary

believe me it is the same for child rearing, taking care of a house, and taking care of relationships...sure some of it isn’t necessary (Christmas cards) but some really is (remembering Grandmas bday and sending a gift). You can put off a kids haircut but not a checkup/vaccines. Your house can be a bit messy but if the kids are wearing dirty clothes or you have dishes in the sink a week old you are in CPS territory.

Both men and women carry mental loads...the issue tends to be thst things like auto care, outdoor things etc are only periodic. Things like childcare and household chores are DAILY. Some relationship things can be tossed aside but some are necessary unless you want to be the a-hole that forgets granny birthday...

Most of it is not made up BS though some things are yes [/quote]

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