Reply to Separate finances: how to deal if one spouse isn't saving enough for retirement

Forum Index » Money and Finances

Reply to "Separate finances: how to deal if one spouse isn't saving enough for retirement"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he has a good salary, FA might have already been out of the picture. OP, I think you're going to have to accept that you will subsidize his retirement. If you were a man, you would be broiled here for suggesting otherwise.  As for his kids college, I agree with one of tg he PPs that ypu need to push him to get money from his ex. His kids deserve your advocacy for their future. [/quote]

This. If he can max retirement, he probably earns too much for his kids to qualify for meaningful aid anyway.

How long has he had primary custody? Agree that he should go for CS.[/quote]

Op has said that the ex is mentally ill, with borderline personality disorder.  I have such a person in my family.  Whatever they get in CS, they’d pay for dearly in abuse from the ex.   It’s not worth it.  The less interactions they have, the better.  I think op was very disingenuous to leave that bit of information out of her first post.  [/quote]

100% agree. It is very selfish and irresponsible from OP to force him to confront his mentally unstable ex about CS? The ex is making only 2/3 of what her husband is making. So we aren't even talking about a lot of CS money here. Is it really worth it? OP's husband is very smart for choosing to stay away from the ex. The ex has a personality disorder and she said that she regret having these children. The husband knows that trying to pressure her to contribute $ to the kids education could make her snap and she could harm these kids. All this for what? for $500? Not worth it. Not sure why OP can't see it. That's what happens when you are obsessed with money.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics