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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can’t believe how many people think his anger over her anxiety is reasonable.  She needs help for her anxiety and he needs help for anger.  How about “I don’t think they mind waiting, but if you’re that worried about it, I’ll pull over and go inside to get them” and then talk about her anxiety at a better time.  Anger over French fries is immature at best. [/quote]

First, he may not realize that her behavior is based in anxiety, he may only see that she’s constantly criticizing him and then lashing out when he gets upset about the criticism.  Second, to the extent he does appreciate that it’s anxiety-based, you don’t know that he hasn’t tried to talk to her about it before.  If OP has dug in on refusing to get treatment, he may be hitting his limit with being her punching bag.[/quote]

Still lots of benefit of the doubt for him and none for her. This entire thread has been a sad example of the different expectations and standards for men and women in relationships. [/quote]

I agree, and find this particular forum skewed toward the “male perspective” in general, actually. I often wonder if there are a lot of men who post here. Men seem to be given the benefit of the doubt unless it is (1) unemployment (2) physical abuse or (3) serious drug/alcohol problems. Any communication, division of labor, parenting issues etc the women are basically told either (1) suck it up, that is how men are (2) more sex sex sex or (3) well you shouldn’t have married him then- just get a divorce.

Not the point of this thread of course...but OP this isn’t a great forum for marital advice. I read it for entertainment value only.  I’d see a marriage counselor- good luck! Chin up- marriage is tough at times but you can do this!.[/quote]

That’s funny, because I find this entire board incredibly skewed toward the female perspective. I think many would agree with me. It’s only in cases like this where the behavior is obviously egregious that posters will take the husband’s side. 
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