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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ll only add that sometimes if you do get into those circles you’ll want to run for your life. I felt like you did the first year or so I was in a small(er) private school. Over the next year or so I became closer friends with one or two of the moms in that group and was then invited to some of the larger get togethers. I[b] came to find that they were all a little messed up-some have super unhappy marriages, some had serious drinking issues [/b]and there was just quite a bit of fake ness going on. It made me very happy that I had my own good friends to actually hang out with. 
I’ll also say that this behavior is much, much worse at the younger grades. I found it much worse at a K-8 than our new school that goes through 12th. At the K-8, a group of families seemed to be involved in everything and coincidentally were also the biggest donors. As they get older there’s a lot less involvement in the kids socializing and there are fewer in school opportunities as well. The donors are still out there but it can’t really buy them the same status at school. 
If your kid is happy, stay for a bit. See how it pans out.

Oh and for your question about why they do it? Insecurity. They’re part of the group and you coming in can threaten their friendships and place in the community. If your school is like our old one, it’s because you don’t have a name, money or cool hook. But your cool hook is that you’re a way better person than they are so just go with your gut. [/quote]

Yes! I'm probably considered a mean mom but I'm not mean at all. I'm honestly just to consumed with my own personal shit that I don't have the energy to meet new people. Yes my marriage is over and I do have a drinking problem. My closest friends are in similar situation. [/quote]

I do. If I make it that far. Usually I just wait for everyone else to be gone so I can have the real interactions with my friends. I don't dislike people but I'm also not searching for new connections. And I really don't like spilling the beans of my miserable life. It's just so much easer with people that already know and that understand. But yeah, I'm probably walking around at school like a very ignorant person not knowing faces or names etc. Or not paying attention in general.

PP here - sorry for the grammatical errors. I just wanted to add - perfectly happy people are the ones I tend to stay away from. We have nothing in common. [/quote]

Maybe you are judging people as "perfectly happy" if they are just friendly, or have a different idea of manners than you.  I try to understand that we are ALL fighting our own battles, and that NO ONE comes out of this life unscathed.  No one. [/quote][/quote]

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