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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will freely admit that I do not usually intervene when my kid commits a routine playground faux-pas like climbing the slide. You know why? I am tired and it is not a huge deal at the end of the day. With my 2yo, I intervene because it is usually a safety issue. With a 5yo, though? No. They can figure it out themselves.

I completely realize this is selfish and that most of you probably find it extremely annoying. I find the people who are constantly intervening in the social dynamics of elementary-school-aged kids annoying as well. [/quote]

I was just thinking as I read the OP, "I let my 4 year old climb the slide......"    I figure he and the other kids can work it out.  Either they will take turns, or they will all decide to climb up instead of slide down, or vice versa, or someone will get kicked and i'll say "yup, sometimes that happens when you climb the slide when it's crowded... people coming down have first dibs".  I actually really dislike when other parents correct children climbing the slide (who aren't their own).  "Ok guys... slides aren't for climbing!  Little Larlo (their own child, always) is waiting patiently to slide down!"   Like ok... let them wait patiently.  What's wrong with this? [/quote]

OP again and I let my kid climb up the slide when there aren't any other kids trying to use it.  But if I see a kid at the top of the slide ready to go down, and my kid starts climbing up it, I'm going to intervene.  Why is my kid so special that he gets to do whatever the heck he wants, regardless of the other kids that are waiting?  [/quote]

Apparently from all the responses here- the other kids are more important since they are older and in school and that they should work it out "cooperatively". [/quote]

-salty mother of 21 month old

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Yep. Salty AF. And also not going to let my kid run all over other kids but then again, he will also learn to open doors, help the elderly, pick up trash, etc[b]. Be a good citizen and that requires being aware of your surroundings and understanding that in COMMON areas that are PUBLICLY funded you have to follow rules if others are around.

You're child SHOULD be able to understand the nuance and if they cant, you should model it.

I would be mortified if my 6-10 year old was not aware of others and if he cant move/avoid/be gentle while another little kid is taking up 2 ft of the playground then guess he needs to go play somewhere else. [/quote]

Oh, the classic talk of a mother of her first baby.  "My kid will be different!  He won't be like all of these other older kids I see!"[/quote]

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