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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've had to deal with this issue as a school counselor. I encouraged the parents (who totally got it) to get much more involved in their child's cell phone use and monitor everything. This child needed a lot of modeling and teaching. I also convinced them to switch to a "dumb" phone because he wasn't ready for having a computer in his pocket. I explained it was protective. I was worried he'd mess up the few friendships that were working for him. I also met with the boy and talked to him about how everyone has a different way of signaling that they need space. I told him that if someone is only answering one out of 50 of your messages, they are trying to set some boundaries. Because I knew he was concrete and lacking skills, I also recommended a social skills group. The parents were amazing and kicked into gear and worked with him themselves, too. If the parents are not open to feedback and nothing changes, you have to help your own child say "no" firmly but kindly and block if needed. And I agree with the PP who suggesting blaming any phone-related stuff on parents, ie "please don't text me, my parents really limit my texts." Or whatever. Think about the long run. If your kid thinks they can't say "no" to texts, what message are you sending them about saying no when someone they don't like repeatedly asks for a nude selfie or asks them out over and over again. It's good practice for setting other boundaries later.[/quote]

This sounds like a good way to handle it.[/quote]

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